One word to describe Sandra Bland’s death is terrifying. Bland — a black woman whose arrest and death while in police custody have affected me deeply. I can see myself and every African American woman in Bland’s shoes on the day of her violent arrest. It reminds me of instances when I too felt victimized and powerless in the presence of police officers who had abused their power. However, considering how many of us are killed at the hands of law-enforcement, we follow their orders whether we believe he or she is wrong or not. In Bland’s death, we continue to watch history repeat itself and have become silenced by injustice.
Bland was different. I believe she took a step toward change. She advocated for victims of police brutality before her death as videos all over the internet show. She knew her rights and exercised them. Bland died fighting for victims of police brutality everywhere. Although her arrest was painful to watch, Bland’s refusal to be taken into custody was an act of bravery on her behalf. She knew exactly what she was up against and what the end result could have been. She also knew the police had no valid reason to make an arrest that day and she fought until the end.
Now, I’m not condoning resisting arrest by any means. What I am condoning is educating ourselves on our rights as drivers and as citizens to know what can and cannot be done to us in these type of situations. The day of Bland’s arrest, there was no sign of her breaking the law besides her changing lanes without a signal. A simple ticket would have sufficed.
Like many other high-profile deaths, arrests and beatings in the past by the police–Eric Garner, Sean Bell and Anthony Baez to name a few — the end result was death with several inconsistencies. Officials ruled Bland’s death a suicide by hanging herself.
The ruling is a hard pill to swallow for the family as well as many Bland supporters who aren’t buying what the police say is the cause of her death.
Why aren’t we buying it? The list goes on. One obvious reason is the cop’s unnecessary interrogation and an arrest made for no reason. You could hear her struggling during the arrest in the video. She complained of not being able to hear from being slammed on her head. She also complained of a knee being in her back when being arrested. With an arrest so violent, why would anyone doubt that the police would have taken it further?
Additionally, a form that Bland allegedly filled out revealed that she attempted suicide in 2014, but a computer form that she also allegedly filled out stated that she never attempted suicide–two contradicting forms of information. Furthermore, if she was suicidal or depressed, her family would have had some sort of clue of her condition. This isn’t the case. They seem to be surprised when hearing the information arguing that she had a bright future and would never do such a thing.
On the other hand, let’s say the police are telling the truth. Say she did commit suicide and wrote down that she had a mental illness on the form. She should have been thoroughly supervised. Wouldn’t that be a reason to ensure that she stays alive? Instead, she was neglected for two hours when the state report notes that there should be a “visual, face to face observation of all inmates by jailers no less than every 60 minutes,” according to CNN. Bland also had many cuts on her arm. Whatever happened that day, there was an obvious lack of regard for Bland’s life. This is something that needs to be addressed because black lives do matter. All lives matter!
How many lives are going to be taken at the hand of law-enforcement before we put a stop to the cycle of police brutality? A message that our lives are invaluable and that this behavior is okay is definitely clear with so many Black lives that have been taken unjustly. I’m not sure what the next step is, but I do know that we all need to continue to write about it, pray about it, talk about it and keep her name alive until we find out what happen to Sandra Bland. We can and will make a difference if we work together.
Each stage in my life that I’ve overcome is a testimony. So yes, some of the ideas for my health and wellness topics come from experience. God has taken me through some major twists and turns, which forced me to bend and stretch my faith in ways unimaginable as a result of my circumstances. But he has never left me broken. He even let a few people who were dear to me walk out of my life. However with each loss, he has given me a lesson in return.
One jewel (lesson) is knowing that when God speaks to your spirit, listen. And listen carefully. After the umpteenth time, I finally listened to the message that he diligently placed in front of me. One of the messages is to change my thinking habits to maintain lasting relationships. Some of us wonder why relationships fail, not realizing that we are the ones responsible for these relationship failures. My experiences inspired me to write the following post, 6 Signs Negative Thinking Is Controlling Your life & Relationships. for EGL Magazine’s Health and Wellness section. I thought I’d also update you on my progress in the writing and blogging industry. Please check it out. I look forward to hearing your thoughts.
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They say when you are happy, you enjoy the lyrics to music and poetry. But to me, when you’re soul-searching, you feel them.
Lately, I’ve been listening to inspirational artists and reading inspirational writing hoping to gain some insight on my spiritual growth and writing career. One powerful woman caught my attention–MissTerious Janette…ikz.
I’ve never witnessed God’s word being delivered with such creativity, realism and strength; Janette…Ikz has brought ministry to new heights and is truly heaven-sent.
After listening to her work at the “Woman of Purpose Conference” last month, I can say that her performance encouraged me to keep fighting. God bless you Ms. Janette, well now Mrs….;).
“If you choose to fight you may have to bleed, and when it gets real tight it may be hard to breathe, in the middle of the night you may not get no sleep, but do you want your victory,” she sings in a verse. I know I want my victory. Do you?
A part of feeling good is also looking your best, so I’ve included some of my favorite fashion and style statements for this spring and summer.
I am a flats girl–always have been. So for me, the tall gladiator style lace up sandals are definitely a game changer for women who prefer flat sandals.
Your hair and shoes can change the vibe of your whole outfit. This summer, I plan to rock my natural locks with some tall gladiators and cute accessories.
The black gladiator sandals are simple and classy. They go well with many shorts and dresses. Etsy has various styles for affordable prices.
I also went with the Chloe’ orange suede wedge gladiator sandals, which are a hot style this spring and summer. They are also one of Vogue’s “Top 7 Accessory Trends of Spring – 2015.”
My personal favorite is the suede lace up gladiator sandals, Free People Decibel Tall Sandals from FreePeople.com. They give a cute, sexy outdoorsy edge that go well with army green or jean blue shorts for a nice summer day.
The infamous dress that has become increasingly popular for its color illusion (is it blue and black or white and gold?) is now being used to bring attention to a more significant issue of domestic violence.
The question has shifted from “what color is the dress?” to “why is it so hard to see black and blue?”
The South African branch of the Salvation Army retweeted an ad which posed the question on a photo of a woman wearing “the dress. “ The woman was covered in black and blue marks all over her body.
The question was followed by an even bolder statement:
“The only illusion is if you think it was her choice. One in 6 women are victims of domestic violence. Stop abuse against women.”
Nearly 4.8 million women in the U.S experience domestic violence. The Salvation Army has served as a safe haven for victims of domestic abuse for over 150 years and ranks as the second largest provider of shelter for domestic violence victims.
The original ad was designed by the Ireland/Davenport agency in Johannesburg and was advertised in the Cape Times Newspaper on Friday morning, according to the Washington Post.
For Fashion Week, I posted some of my favorite looks on Instagram. The feed back that I got after posting inspired me to check out the hottest designers and online shopping sites and post my ideas on my site.
Some of my items are a bit expensive. But I’ll post more reasonable prices for working moms in future posts.
My first set is a casual and simple hook up. When it comes to colors, black is a classic–you can never go wrong with black.
Frame Denim Le Color Ripped Film Noir: black stretched-denim skinny jeans, $190, visit Shopmrsh.com.
Yellow Tank: I added a pop of color with the yellow cami tank.
Whitchery Contrast Trim Cardi: timeless grey waterfall silhouette, $78, visit Witchery.com.
Bari Exotic Combo Lace-Up Day Booties: these booties look excellent when paired with skinny jeans or military style jackets, $350, visit BCBG.com.
Michael Kors Camden Medium Drawstring Satchel: carry this Michael Kors bag wherever you go. It is roomy and okay for almost any outfit or occasion, $358, visit Zappos.com.
Black Lipstick: Red lipstick adds a touch of “sophistication and power,” according to Elle magazine March 2015 issue, but black lipstick is bold. This shade gives the outfit a bit of an edgy look.
Marc Jacobs ‘Daisy Sorbet’ Eau de Toilette Spray: $76, Nordstrom.com
Please let me know your thoughts on my picks. I would love to hear from you!