For Breast Cancer Awareness Month, She’s Our Rock would like to give back to Breastcancer.org. The charity’s mission is to help women and their loved ones in “making sense of the complex medical and personal information about breast cancer, so they can make the best decisions for their lives.” Losing a loved one to cancer is tough, so every bit that you can do for a family helps.
Come out in support of Breast Cancer Awareness Month with your family and friends and bowl for breast cancer on Saturday Oct. 17, 2015. Bring the flyer with you and bowl anytime between the hours of 9:00 am and 5:00 pm at Woodbridge Bowling Center in Woodbridge, NJ. For everything that you spend at Woodbridge Bowling Center, 15 % of the funds will go to Breastcancer.org.
To support the fundraising event, you can also donate to Breastcaner.org on the She’s Our Rock Bowl For Breast Cancer page. Please don’t forget to wear pink!
Thanks for your support in advance!
Some people go to the extreme to obtain better health. Who knew such amazing health benefits could be found in something as simple as lemon water? Drinking lemon water in the morning with your breakfast has amazing health benefits. For centuries, it has been used for its antiseptic and curative properties. Here’s a few cool facts about lemon water.
- It helps boosts your immune system
- It’s packed with Vitamin C
- Boosts energy levels
- Aids liver in flushing out toxins
- Prevents inflammation
- It freshens your breath
- Helps digestion
- Aids in weight loss
- Soothes skin
- Cleanses bowels
- Treats Scurvy
- Destroys intestinal worms and various diseases
If you’re a big water drinker, then adding lemon is a simple step in your diet that will have endless benefits. The list goes on.
The temperature has let up a bit and “cuffing season” (couple’s season) approaches. This season attracts a plethora of activities for couples, and you may recognize that love is in the air. It’s just not circulating in your direction, well at least not lasting love. If your last relationship fumble has left you down in the dumps, remember, it happens to the best of us. But the good news is that there’s much more to look forward to after a breakup. If you don’t believe me then read on.
1.) Put on Your Traveling Gear. I read countless solutions to getting over a breakup from people who are experiencing a rough-patch in their love lives. One idea mentioned that sparked my interest is “navigating the Whitsunday Islands on a yacht” – well at least it sounds good. On a simpler note, visiting a sister’s house in North Carolina for the weekend or planning a small intimate and inexpensive trip to your ideal travel spot would be much more realistic if you’re trying not to diminish your pockets. According to an article from USA Today, Taking time away from work and routine allows the body time to replenish and repair itself.” Additionally, in my opinion, seeing new concepts and fascinating places will less likely bring a former significant other to mind. Traveling is therapeutic, and you get a new and fresh mind-set.
2.) Overcome Your Fears. If you’re looking to do something bold after a breakup, trust me, it’s not to try bungee jumping, dye your hair half green and half yellow or to make some other eccentric statement. If trying new odd things are your thing, then okay. But, you don’t want to be known as the impulsive one who has an Angela Basset moment from “Waiting to Exhale” every time you end a relationship. Channel pinned up negative energy into something positive like curing a fear of public speaking or joining that dance class that you’ve always wanted. Then, you’ll discover something you can be excellent at.
3.) Go to Starbucks. Starbucks will put anyone’s mind at ease, especially avid book readers, students, writers and etc. who enjoy peaceful alone time. And there’s something about a green tea, a comforting blend of chamomile, rose petals and soothing herbs and several flavored lattes that can relax anyone; try one and you’ll see! All their shops present a quiet, comfy and inviting community to jump-start your day and recuperate.
4.) Follow a Weight-Loss Plan/Exercise. After a few pounds are shed, energy levels and confidence skyrocket and a new women is conceived. Why not? You deserve the extra attention. For every 10 lbs. you lose, throw in an extra pair of shoes or a hand bag to build your motivation. Remember, our health is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves and how we treat ourselves.
5.) Meditate/Pray. One thing is for sure: God knows what you need. His plans are to prosper you, not to harm you. They are to give you a future and hope. (Jeremiah 29:11) So don’t count it a loss but a gain and a step closer to what God actually has for you. Post-breakups should be a time where you meditate on his word, pray and let him guide you to the next step as you begin to heal. If anyone knows best it’s our Daddy – lean on him.
6.) Cross Out Rebounding From Your Agenda. This was my first idea. Today, I heard a young woman tell her co-worker the same thing this morning as advice to his recent breakup. That was confirmation! (Amen) Someone once told me that “to get over someone, you must first get under another one.” I believe that is thee worst advice. Dating too quickly gets you right back to the drawing board and in deeper crap than you started with. It may feel rejuvenating amid the action, but it almost never has long-term success. You never give yourself time to heal. When you’re alone again, the same thoughts will rehash of your former significant other.
7.) Garden. Garden. Garden. Many people with alcohol addictions or other issues find tranquility in gardening. Check Home Depot for herbal seeds to plant i.e Lavender, Sage, Medicine Herb seeds, Cherry Tomato and etc. You’ll find yourself looking forward to their growth progress instead of looking for…let’s not mention it since we’ve done so well. Herb plants also have various usages in the kitchen and for daily self-care.
8.) Wish Them Well. There is a great release in letting go and ending things in a positive light while still accepting that you love someone. Hanging on to miserable thoughts will naturally make you miserable about ending the relationship. Never let someone live rent-free in your head. Instead, let go by wishing them well!
One word to describe Sandra Bland’s death is terrifying. Bland — a black woman whose arrest and death while in police custody have affected me deeply. I can see myself and every African American woman in Bland’s shoes on the day of her violent arrest. It reminds me of instances when I too felt victimized and powerless in the presence of police officers who had abused their power. However, considering how many of us are killed at the hands of law-enforcement, we follow their orders whether we believe he or she is wrong or not. In Bland’s death, we continue to watch history repeat itself and have become silenced by injustice.
Bland was different. I believe she took a step toward change. She advocated for victims of police brutality before her death as videos all over the internet show. She knew her rights and exercised them. Bland died fighting for victims of police brutality everywhere. Although her arrest was painful to watch, Bland’s refusal to be taken into custody was an act of bravery on her behalf. She knew exactly what she was up against and what the end result could have been. She also knew the police had no valid reason to make an arrest that day and she fought until the end.
Now, I’m not condoning resisting arrest by any means. What I am condoning is educating ourselves on our rights as drivers and as citizens to know what can and cannot be done to us in these type of situations. The day of Bland’s arrest, there was no sign of her breaking the law besides her changing lanes without a signal. A simple ticket would have sufficed.
Like many other high-profile deaths, arrests and beatings in the past by the police–Eric Garner, Sean Bell and Anthony Baez to name a few — the end result was death with several inconsistencies. Officials ruled Bland’s death a suicide by hanging herself.
The ruling is a hard pill to swallow for the family as well as many Bland supporters who aren’t buying what the police say is the cause of her death.
Why aren’t we buying it? The list goes on. One obvious reason is the cop’s unnecessary interrogation and an arrest made for no reason. You could hear her struggling during the arrest in the video. She complained of not being able to hear from being slammed on her head. She also complained of a knee being in her back when being arrested. With an arrest so violent, why would anyone doubt that the police would have taken it further?
Additionally, a form that Bland allegedly filled out revealed that she attempted suicide in 2014, but a computer form that she also allegedly filled out stated that she never attempted suicide–two contradicting forms of information. Furthermore, if she was suicidal or depressed, her family would have had some sort of clue of her condition. This isn’t the case. They seem to be surprised when hearing the information arguing that she had a bright future and would never do such a thing.
On the other hand, let’s say the police are telling the truth. Say she did commit suicide and wrote down that she had a mental illness on the form. She should have been thoroughly supervised. Wouldn’t that be a reason to
make sure that she stays alive? Instead, she was neglected for two hours when the state report notes that there should be a “visual, face to face observation of all inmates by jailers no less than every 60 minutes,” according to CNN. Bland also had many cuts on her arm. Whatever happened that day, there was an obvious lack of regard for Bland’s life. This is something that needs to be addressed because black lives do matter. All lives matter!
How many lives are going to be taken at the hand of law-enforcement before we put a stop to the cycle of police brutality? A message that our lives are invaluable and that this behavior is okay is definitely clear with so many Black lives that have been taken unjustly. I’m not sure what the next step is, but I do know that we all need to continue to write about it, pray about it, talk about it and keep her name alive until we find out what happen to Sandra Bland. We can and will make a difference if we work together.
Each stage in my life that I’ve overcome is a testimony. So yes, some of the ideas for my health and wellness topics come from experience. God has taken me through some major twists and turns, which forced me to bend and stretch my faith in ways unimaginable as a result of my circumstances. But he has never left me broken. He even let a few people who were dear to me walk out of my life. However with each loss, he has given me a lesson in return.
One jewel (lesson) is knowing that when God speaks to your spirit, listen. And listen carefully. After the umpteenth time, I finally listened to the message that he diligently placed in front of me. One of the messages is to change my thinking habits to maintain lasting relationships. Some of us wonder why relationships fail, not realizing that we are the ones responsible for these relationship failures. My experiences inspired me to write the following post, 6 Signs Negative Thinking Is Controlling Your life & Relationships. for EGL Magazine’s Health and Wellness section. I thought I’d also update you on my progress in the writing and blogging industry. Please check it out. I look forward to hearing your thoughts.
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They say when you are happy, you enjoy the lyrics to music and poetry. But to me, when you’re soul-searching, you feel them.
Lately, I’ve been listening to inspirational artists and reading inspirational writing hoping to gain some insight on my spiritual growth and writing career. One powerful woman caught my attention–MissTerious Janette…ikz.
I’ve never witnessed God’s word being delivered with such creativity, realism and strength; Janette…Ikz has brought ministry to new heights and is truly heaven-sent.
After listening to her work at the “Woman of Purpose Conference” last month, I can say that her performance encouraged me to keep fighting. God bless you Ms. Janette, well now Mrs….;).
“If you choose to fight you may have to bleed, and when it gets real tight it may be hard to breathe, in the middle of the night you may not get no sleep, but do you want your victory,” she sings in a verse. I know I want my victory. Do you?