August 21, 2015 at 3:13 pm Leave a comment

6 Reasons To Go Natural

Natural Hair Lover

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The natural hair movement has been around for some time now and is still growing. More women are shying away from the “creamy crack” (straighteners, relaxers and chemicals) and are choosing to embrace the natural kinks, curls and coils that they were born with. For many, dropping the chemicals help to grow healthier locks. The idea also makes a statement that evades society’s standards of beauty. However, because it conflicts with the social norms in the workplace, many women are still reluctant to take the big step. Whatever you decide to do with your hair, be sure that you are comfortable with your choice and that it suits your lifestyle.

1.) Natural Hair Is Liberating. Anyone who has gone natural can tell you that it’s liberating to wear your hair in its natural state, which allows you to celebrate your own heritage. It’s also flexible. One day you can rock a sleek blowout, and then, fall in love with your “fro” later on. You can wear it however you prefer and still attain beauty without the unhealthy chemicals.

2.) The Trends Are Changing In The Work Place. Is it true that a hair texture can be “unprofessional” in the workplace? The idea sounds silly, but for years, the corporate culture has had a huge influence on the way we have worn our hair. Natural hair was considered unkempt. The dean of Hampton University of Business placed a ban on natural hairstyles such as dreadlocks and cornrows in the classroom in 2001, arguing that relaxed hair is more suitable for the corporate world. And while natural hair is not socially accepted everywhere, it is slowly changing as more people understand that judging someone by the way their hair grows is discrimination. Besides, there are professional natural styles such as protective styles in an up-do, buns, blowouts and etc.

3.) A Learning Experience. Emu oil – an oil taken from the fat from a certain subspecies of the Emu or Australian bird – has many benefits. The oil heals the skin, moisturizes hair and has been known to ease the hair growth process. All the amazing health tips out there to discover when caring for your hair will drive anyone to become health conscience.

4.) Builds Confidence. According to a study by “Cosmetic Company Bountiful Hair,” women with natural hair have lower self-esteem than women with relaxed hair. But going natural can have the opposite effect. If you’ve been in the salon since your hot comb days, when you realize how gorgeous your own hair looks, your self-esteem will skyrocket. It is a confidence that only natural beauty can achieve.

5.) Convenient For Moms/Women on The Go. Whether you’re a Twist Out diva, coil queen, or you simply prefer to wash and go, all the styles and many more are easily attainable for moms on the go. Your hair can withstand sweat from an intense work out at the gym or a day in the water on beach day.

6.) It’s Inexpensive. Walking out of the salon after a fresh hair-do will have you feeling like a new woman – fabulous. Monthly, it costs a lot to keep up your hair. Bills can run you an obscene amount of money from buying human hair and products, which can easily add up if you do the math. For high-quality human hair, the cost can run customers hundreds of dollars. Where as natural hair, you can manage yourself.

July 28, 2015 at 12:13 am Leave a comment

What Happened to Sandra Bland?

One word to describe Sandra Bland’s death is terrifying. Bland — a black woman whose arrest and death while in police custody have affected me deeply. I can see myself and every African American woman in Bland’s shoes on the day of her violent arrest. It reminds me of instances when I too felt victimized and powerless in the presence of police officers who had abused their power. However, considering how many of us are killed at the hands of law-enforcement, we follow their orders whether we believe he or she is wrong or not. In Bland’s death, we continue to watch history repeat itself and have become silenced by injustice.

Bland was different. I believe she took a step toward change. She advocated for victims of police brutality before her death as videos all over the internet show. She knew her rights and exercised them. Bland died fighting for victims of police brutality everywhere. Although her arrest was painful to watch, Bland’s refusal to be taken into custody was an act of bravery on her behalf. She knew exactly what she was up against and what the end result could have been. She also knew the police had no valid reason to make an arrest that day and she fought until the end.

Now, I’m not condoning resisting arrest by any means. What I am condoning is educating ourselves on our rights as drivers and as citizens to know what can and cannot be done to us in these type of situations. The day of Bland’s arrest, there was no sign of her breaking the law besides her changing lanes without a signal. A simple ticket would have sufficed.

Like many other high-profile deaths, arrests and beatings in the past by the police–Eric Garner, Sean Bell and Anthony Baez to name a few — the end result was death with several inconsistencies. Officials ruled Bland’s death a suicide by hanging herself.

The ruling is a hard pill to swallow for the family as well as many Bland supporters who aren’t buying what the police say is the cause of her death.

Why aren’t we buying it? The list goes on. One obvious reason is the cop’s unnecessary interrogation and an arrest made for no reason. You could hear her struggling during the arrest in the video. She complained of not being able to hear from being slammed on her head. She also complained of a knee being in her back when being arrested. With an arrest so violent, why would anyone doubt that the police would have taken it further?

Additionally, a form that Bland allegedly filled out revealed that she attempted suicide in 2014, but a computer form that she also allegedly filled out stated that she never attempted suicide–two contradicting forms of information. Furthermore, if she was suicidal or depressed, her family would have had some sort of clue of her condition. This isn’t the case. They seem to be surprised when hearing the information arguing that she had a bright future and would never do such a thing.

On the other hand, let’s say the police are telling the truth. Say she did commit suicide and wrote down that she had a mental illness on the form. She should have been thoroughly supervised. Wouldn’t that be a reason to ensure that she stays alive? Instead, she was neglected for two hours when the state report notes that there should be a “visual, face to face observation of all inmates by jailers no less than every 60 minutes,” according to CNN. Bland also had many cuts on her arm. Whatever happened that day, there was an obvious lack of regard for Bland’s life. This is something that needs to be addressed because black lives do matter. All lives matter!

How many lives are going to be taken at the hand of law-enforcement before we put a stop to the cycle of police brutality? A message that our lives are invaluable and that this behavior is okay is definitely clear with so many Black lives that have been taken unjustly. I’m not sure what the next step is, but I do know that we all need to continue to write about it, pray about it, talk about it and keep her name alive until we find out what happen to Sandra Bland. We can and will make a difference if we work together.

July 24, 2015 at 12:39 am Leave a comment

Signs Negative Thinking Can Be Harming Your Relationships

Each stage in my life that I’ve overcome is a testimony. So yes, some of the ideas for my health and wellness topics come from experience. God has taken me through some major twists and turns, which forced me to bend and stretch my faith in ways unimaginable as a result of my circumstances. But he has never left me broken. He even let a few people who were dear to me walk out of my life. However with each loss, he has given me a lesson in return.

One jewel (lesson) is knowing that when God speaks to your spirit, listen. And listen carefully. After the umpteenth time, I finally listened to the message that he diligently placed in front of me. One of the messages is to change my thinking habits to maintain lasting relationships. Some of us wonder why relationships fail, not realizing that we are the ones responsible for these relationship failures. My experiences inspired me to write the following post, 6 Signs Negative Thinking Is Controlling Your life & Relationships. for EGL Magazine’s Health and Wellness section. I thought I’d also update you on my progress in the writing and blogging industry. Please check it out. I look forward to hearing your thoughts.

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July 8, 2015 at 12:14 am Leave a comment

Spoken Words You Need To Hear

They say when you are happy, you enjoy the lyrics to music and poetry. But to me, when you’re soul-searching, you feel them.

Lately, I’ve been listening to inspirational artists and reading inspirational writing hoping to gain some insight on my spiritual growth and writing career. One powerful woman caught my attention–MissTerious Janette…ikz.

I’ve never witnessed God’s word being delivered with such creativity, realism and strength; Janette…Ikz has brought ministry to new heights and is truly heaven-sent.

After listening to her work at the “Woman of Purpose Conference” last month, I can say that her performance encouraged me to keep fighting. God bless you Ms. Janette, well now Mrs….;).

“If you choose to fight you may have to bleed, and when it gets real tight it may be hard to breathe, in the middle of the night you may not get no sleep, but do you want your victory,” she sings in a verse. I know I want my victory. Do you?

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Fashion & Style Statement

Etsy Black Gladiator Sandals

A part of feeling good is also looking your best, so I’ve included some of my favorite fashion and style statements for this spring and summer.

I am a flats girl–always have been. So for me, the tall gladiator style lace up sandals are definitely a game changer for women who prefer flat sandals.

Your hair and shoes can change the vibe of your whole outfit. This summer, I plan to rock my natural locks with some tall gladiators and cute accessories.

The black gladiator sandals are simple and classy. They go well with many shorts and dresses. Etsy has various styles for affordable prices.

I also went with the Chloe’ orange suede wedge gladiator sandals, which are a hot style this spring and summer. They are also one of Vogue’s “Top 7 Accessory Trends of Spring – 2015.”

My personal favorite is the suede lace up gladiator sandals, Free People Decibel Tall Sandals from FreePeople.com. They give a cute, sexy outdoorsy edge that go well with army green or jean blue shorts for a nice summer day.

Chloe' Orange Suede Wedge Gladiator Sandals

Chloe’ Orange Suede Wedge Gladiator Sandals

Free People Decibel  Tall Sandal

Free People Decibel
Tall Sandal, FreePeople.com


March 15, 2015 at 2:32 pm Leave a comment


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“The Dress” Is Used To Raise Awareness Against Domestic Violence


The infamous dress that has become increasingly popular for its color illusion (is it blue and black or white and gold?) is now being used to bring attention to a more significant issue of domestic violence.

The question has shifted from “what color is the dress?” to “why is it so hard to see black and blue?”

The South African branch of the Salvation Army retweeted an ad which posed the question on a photo of a woman wearing “the dress. “ The woman was covered in black and blue marks all over her body.

The question was followed by an even bolder statement:

“The only illusion is if you think it was her choice. One in 6 women are victims of domestic violence. Stop abuse against women.”

Nearly 4.8 million women in the U.S experience domestic violence. The Salvation Army has served as a safe haven for victims of domestic abuse for over 150 years and ranks as the second largest provider of shelter for domestic violence victims.

The original ad was designed by the Ireland/Davenport agency in Johannesburg and was advertised in the Cape Times Newspaper on Friday morning, according to the Washington Post.

March 9, 2015 at 6:10 pm 1 comment

Fashion & Style Statement

Fashion 23For Fashion Week, I posted some of my favorite looks on Instagram. The feed back that I got after posting inspired me to check out the hottest designers and online shopping sites and post my ideas on my site.

Some of my items are a bit expensive. But I’ll post more reasonable prices for working moms in future posts.

My first set is a casual and simple hook up. When it comes to colors, black is a classic–you can never go wrong with black.

Frame Denim Le Color Ripped Film Noir: black stretched-denim skinny jeans, $190, visit Shopmrsh.com.

Yellow Tank: I added a pop of color with the yellow cami tank.

Whitchery Contrast Trim Cardi: timeless grey waterfall silhouette, $78, visit Witchery.com.

Bari Exotic Combo Lace-Up Day Booties: these booties look excellent when paired with skinny jeans or military style jackets, $350, visit BCBG.com.

Michael Kors Camden Medium Drawstring Satchel: carry this Michael Kors bag wherever you go. It is roomy and okay for almost any outfit or occasion, $358, visit Zappos.com.

Black Lipstick: Red lipstick adds a touch of “sophistication and power,” according to Elle magazine March 2015 issue, but black lipstick is bold. This shade gives the outfit a bit of an edgy look.

Marc Jacobs ‘Daisy Sorbet’ Eau de Toilette Spray: $76, Nordstrom.com

Please let me know your thoughts on my picks. I would love to hear from you!


March 8, 2015 at 9:58 pm Leave a comment

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